EPISODE 15

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Calvin Wayman: What if I wake up in ten years and not only nothing has changed? What if this fire I have to make my ding in the universe to go after designing the life that I want? What if that fire I have dies?

 

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 Ladies and gentlemen boys and girls hello! Happy Friday. Thank you for coming on the podcast and welcome to today’s episode of fan question Friday. First of all I am freaking pumped right now I don’t know if you have listened to previous episodes to this one but, the reason I’m so freaking excited right now is I just made a massive upgrade with the tech for this show just trying to take the advice of my buddy Michael O’Neill who was on episode 1 with making the podcast sound a little bit cleaner and clearer and man this new headset in everything I have right now is like the most I’ve ever spent on tech it’s the most I’ve ever spent on making it freaking awesome an I’m just in love with it so welcome to this new crisp sound I’m just super excited about it and to see where it goes.

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Cool! Alright so let’s jump into fan question Friday. Now the cool thing about this episode what we do every single week is it’s a solo episode for a fans to get their questions answered and to kind of go deeper into my world and I’m a big fan of this because this was an idea actually brought up by my buddy John Lee Dumas who was on episode 2 and he was like knowing who I am and what I do what I put on social media and stuff like that he recommended that I stick to that and just be totally open and transparent in who I am now.

Cool little benchmark that we just passed, we just passed our first 1,000 downloads of the podcast which I’m super pumped about we do spread across the one month mark and so we hit that even before the first month I’m so excited about that congratulations to all of you listening because it’s you guys that actually did it so thank you so very much and I can’t wait till we get more people in on that from 1,000 downloads two to ten thousand to a hundred thousand every single month like that’s just going to be unreal. But, for this episode what I’ve decided to do is I realized I’m starting to get listeners now who are probably hearing me for the very first time and you might be thinking okay I’m listening to this podcast because I’m curious about Bitcoin or I was curious about podcasting or some other thing that you listened about and you might be thinking but who the because Calvin Wayman?  and where is he come from? Like, what’s his backstory? why am I listening to him? why do I give a shit? and things of that nature and all valid questions.

So, what I wanted to do today is kind of share a little bit of what I’ve been up to the last three years why I do what I do why I tick why this podcast even freaking exists and kind of this whole journey I’ve been on because chances are there might be something in there that gives you encouragement or gives you some sort of like validation that whatever it is that you want to go after you can do it too. Let’s rewind the clock a little bit to three years ago. So, three years ago I had a bit of an awakening or a rude awakening or something like that yet another year had passed where a new year had come and something that I do every single new year is I reflect back and look to what I had to show for it and I didn’t have much to show for it honestly. I was in a day job that what I was in way too long.

I wasn’t growing anymore I felt unfulfilled and I just had dreams that were dying on the vine. I had dreams of becoming an entrepreneur. I had dreams of being able to travel the world. I had dreams of becoming financially independent. I had dreams of doing things that were physically challenging just to prove to myself if I could. I dreams of being an author well I mean I don’t know if you could just hear that but I just had a ringer you know I’m good I’m totally gonna leave that in as unprofessional as that sounds I’m gonna totally leave that in because I think that’s just proof I’ve told people already that this show is completely like unedited and totally real and raw and for the most part it is we have some cleaning up that we do but, that’s just proof right there that yeah it’s just totally real hopefully whoever the f was just trying to call me does not try to call me again because I don’t want to ruin it for you guys but anyway back to what I was saying with the story.

So, I had all these things I wanted to do these dreams I wanted to go after and prior before this all the like prior before having these dreams or leading up to having these dreams I actually got deep into personal development because not only did I have these dreams of living the life that I actually wanted to live like when I was getting honest with myself realizing you know I don’t want to be a freaking employee of my life I want to be able to travel when I want and go to cool places I want to be able to get paid doing what I love and all this stuff not only did I have don’t have these dreams but I was starting to read and read a lot and a lot of what I was reading was telling me I could have these things I was starting to read a lot of awesome books like thinking Grow Rich how to win friends and influence people, The richest man in Babylon, The Millionaire Next Door and I started to just really open up my mind to what was possible and my belief started to really stretch to what was possible now during this time I was doing little double E things on the side little side hustles like network marketing without a ton of success and again year after year was just passing and I was like man I’m starting to read I’m reading all this stuff that says I can have these things do I’m saying I want to travel do I really want I’m saying I want to be an entrepreneur can I really I’m saying I want to go around and be paid to speak like I want to have my own book yeah I’m saying I want to have all these things I’m reading the things that some I can I’m listening to the right people I’m getting podcasts like this in my ear I’m listening to audiobooks they’re saying I can but why am I not why am I not going after it why is another year passing why am I not freaking doing it and I started getting pissed at myself and asking why am I not doing it why am I not doing it and it came to me why I wasn’t doing it.

Fear, that was it fear the only thing that was holding me back was fucking fear! And I have a different feel around fear now but that’s the energy that I had it now I had had then was this son-of-a-bitching fear it’s the only thing that’s holding me back from creating the life that I want. What like, what could I do to like get past it `coz I realized if I didn’t have fear what would I be doing?  Would I be in this day job that’s just doing the same thing over and over?

No, I would be going after it the only problem is I didn’t know what my business would be if I was gonna go after it but, even when I was saying I didn’t know how and I thought it was a I didn’t know how I thought that was the problem not fear when I took a step back I realized well if I didn’t have fear I would figure out the how I would just figure it out so it wasn’t the know how or than not knowing how that’s what I think most people think is that it if they just knew how there were other things that I thought I had I knew how her had a really good idea but I still wasn’t taking action on it. I was still getting deeper into debt.

I was still not traveling. I was still not being an entrepreneur and the only thing that was holding me back was fear and that fear was holding on to me for a really long time I have journal entries like I’ve been journaling almost every day for since I was 17 which is so insane now looking back on I’m so glad I’ve had this habit but, looking back on my journal entries I was talking about quitting my day job and going after my own thing for months and months and months before things actually changed and this is the point where it actually changed yet another year had passed this was three years ago. So early 2015 as of this recording it’s in 2018 right now and it was the beginning of the year in 2015 and yet another year had gone by where my dreams were dying on the vine and I had all the voices and all the validation that said if you really want to go after this you can and then I projected myself 10 years in the future and I was like all this fear is grabbing ahold of me I have really good reasons to not do this. I have a wife I have a one-year-old, I have credit card loans we were credit card debt student loans a car loan I have all this debt I have all these reasons not to do it and it would be real easy to stop.

But, then I projected myself ten years in the future and was like what if I wake up in ten years and not a fucking thing has changed and I had this weird moment that it was almost like I had a conversation with my 10 year older self and I was literally trying to put myself in my mind’s eye of like my I was 27 at the time so I was like my 37 year old self was like “ Dude what should I do should I take action and should I not?” and my 37 year old self it was like obvious to him it was like “Dude as you get older you’re going to have more responsibility not less so why not bite the bullet if you’re ever going to do it you probably want to do it now” and so then the wheel started to get turning and before I was done with that little 10 year older self session I had this really depressing the thought and the thought was this what if the fire that I have to make a difference on the world because that’s what all this is wrapped up into I not only wanted to be a speaker and become financially independent I wanted to make a freaking difference I wanted to get my message out to the world I wanted to make an impact I was reading biographies of Steve Jobs and listening in here and how he talked about making a ding in the universe I wanted to make my freaking ding in the universe. I wasn’t meant to just sit at this day job and wake up at 45 and be like what the fuck am I doing like I had all this these thoughts and I remember like just feeling so blah! what am I gonna do and then here’s the depressing thought that I had I was like what if I wake up in ten years and not only nothing has changed what if this fire I have to make my ding in the universe to go after designing the life that I want what if that fire I have dies what if it dies because I didn’t act on it that thought ate at me like crazy.

The thought that I would have like the regret that I didn’t do anything or worse that I didn’t even care and then I become this old dude this old bitter person that just pisses on young 20 year olds of like oh this dream that you have is really stupid we just wait till life kicks your ass you’re not gonna do it like the thought of that happening was the pill debilitating I don’t know what the word is like it was just very like it was horrible and that’s where things started to change but I still had a big question there was a big big question I started to look at videos and people’s stories that had what I wanted and that were super inspirational some of these people were people like Jim Carrey.

He had super inspirational stories or Robert Kiyosaki of Rich Dad Poor Dad or a major one that was more contemporary was Gary Vaynerchuk these people were or Tony Robbins even these people had the type of life that I wanted I wanted to be able to create a business that I could run anywhere I wanted to be able to travel I didn’t want to be stuck at a job I wanted to be able to get paid to speak and all this stuff and then I was like man I’m getting all this information that it can be done here’s proof that it can be done but I’m just a regular freaking dude yeah I can see Gary Vaynerchuk didn’t can do it he’s  freaking a confident freaking bastard like he’s so full of energy he had awesome parenting like but what about me I’m just in the middle rung like my parents weren’t super whack we weren’t super poor we had a freeway of massive families so we definitely struggled at times but I’m in the middle like what do you do when you when you when you’re just comfortable like what do you do then or I would listen to things of like what Tony Robbins would say like this personal development stuff and I was like yeah but is that real can you really do that and then I would hear like Jim Carrey story he went on Oprah and Jim Carrey told his story how he was like before he made it as a comedian or as an actor he would go up to the top of this hill Mulholland Drive and visualize creating this life that he wanted most like that’s what I’m doing , I’m visualizing it.

Man! I want to be I want to be up on stage like these people are that I’m watching on YouTube videos I want to be online I want to have a podcast I want to be interviewed on the peoples on people’s podcasts that I own but, then I was like did these guys just get lucky though? Either did they get lucky or do they have something that I want or that I don’t have I should say do they have something I don’t have is there some little extra spark like, man! I wish there was just something that showed me that they were regular dudes like me. I wish I could find these guys before they were big so then I went and searched and searched and searched and spent days probably trying to find content and videos of people like Steve Jobs, Oprah, Ellen, Gary Vaynerchuk ,Tony Robbins.

All these people that have been reading about learning from getting their books and stuff like that I started to see if I could find pieces of content before they made it before they had the life that they have now and here’s the closest I got the closest I got is them talking about their struggles before they made it. So it was always stories told after the fact and I remember thinking man how freaking cool would that be if you could go rewind the life on some of these people? Like, that’s all I need right now like as I’m about to get started on this journey that I want to go after so bad all I need is to like I need somebody to show me some evidence that Jim Carrey, Tony Robbins, Gary Vaynerchuk, Will Smith, All of these people were just once like me because I know I have something to share with the world but I just don’t want to go it up I don’t want to go out and like fall flat on my face like I wish I could rewind it and watch them do it as they did it and then it occurred to me Calvin if it doesn’t exist and you’re hearing all this information this personal development stuff why don’t you test it out and why don’t you document the journey along the way that’s where things really started for me and got really interesting.

I started to ask myself those types of questions if I’m really gonna go after this because I’m having the vision I’m in to be I’m at the beginning point of what people like Jim Carrey was talking about that he had these visions of creating this life and things of that nature or people like Gary Vaynerchuk talking about the tactics of how to do a certain thing and I was like if what why don’t I become like the personal development crash-test-dummy and I literally go test out this stuff now that I think I’m learning or take what Tony Robbins is doing and actually try it but what if instead of just trying it what if I actually document it along the way, so that people can see it people can like could rewind my journey like let’s pretend that I become a millionaire because that was my ultimate, my ultimate goal of like yeah I want to do all these other things but I want to become a millionaire. Like how cool would it be is I’m a millionaire people are looking to me they’re asking me for advice how could it be that I can point back to like with a 22 year old kid coming up to me and asking me how to do it what if I could point to a resource and say go rewind it to this point when I was at your stage and this is what I did then. so stories no longer getting lost in translation people can actually see it as it was happening. Because, that’s what I felt like was missing in all the stories of these super successful people that I was putting up on pet Stoll’s is I was missing the things that were lost in translation the nuances of their journey in their story when they were at the same stage that I was that and I was like it doesn’t freaking exist so if it doesn’t exist if there’s no documented story of somebody doing it going after it and documenting at documenting it as they’re becoming successful why don’t I do it and so I decided I was going to and so this was a pretty big freaking step so a lot of this was happening around the same time early 2015 and I just freaking jumped so the first thing I did is I quit my day job cold turkey.

I was like I’m going to literally put Jim Rohn and Tony Robbins and all these people I’m gonna freaking put their shit to the test like I’ve been reading about it long enough I’ve been hearing about I’ve been seeing people’s success and I because of the projection that I had ten years and with my 10 year old herself and the idea of the fire dying inside of me and the regret that I would feel if it did die that was enough to make me say you know what I would rather try this stuff document it and fail and show somebody what made me fail then just wake up and like wonder where I could have gone. So that was my starting point I was like Freak I’m gonna go after this so I quit my day job and after quitting my day job, I was just searching around of what I was gonna do next the first thing I did is I looked at a lot of network marketing companies to see what I was gonna do but one of the things I was so committed to and I just wanna bones and high-five my three year younger self from now for sticking to my guns here because I was very tempted with cool companies cool compensation plans freaking even really cool opportunities to get into different companies but I made the commitment that if I’m going to actually do this for real.

I want to stay true to myself I want to do something not out of fear and not out of missing out or of missing out I want to do something that is 100% authentically me and there was a lot of network marketing companies for example that looked awesome the opportunity to look cool but it was 99% awesome not 100 and that one little percent was enough for me to keep going and I decided I was not going to stop on something until it was the thing that I wanted to do. Again, just fast forward  I ended up moving to Southern California to do door-to-door sales now, that doesn’t sound like a big dream I know but the reason I did that is I was like if I’m gonna do this entrepreneurial thing if I’m gonna create my own life and be an entrepreneur. I probably need to develop some grit, I probably need to be able to handle rejection and feel what it feels like to do things on my own. And I had a mentor I can’t remember where it came from but somebody told me that if you’re gonna be an entrepreneur you should do door-to-door sales or if you could do four months of door-to-door you could probably do pretty much anything and so that’s what I did I got into door-to-door I had a buddy of mine that just started in California doing selling solar and it was my first taste of doing a business that was my own thing like I had nobody that I was being held accountable to or anything like that I just jumped in and started doing that and it was scary as all get-out we could have like a whole episode just on what I learned with door-to-door but I want to kind of catch up where this was going and like things that have come from it.

What I committed to at the beginning of my journey and what I’m still doing now what I did when I was going into like door-to-door to stretch myself or doing I did a lot of these other things to like challenge myself mentally and physically is I wanted to put to the test all this stuff that I was reading and personal development but also capture along the way so along the way I started a YouTube show called millionaire case study. I still have it I didn’t know anything about video or how to edit anything but I was like I’m just going to start this channel called millionaire case study and with millionaire case study that’s what I am. I am the million I’m a case study either people are gonna like years down the road they’re gonna be able to look back and say here’s a case study if somebody that fucked up, that failed.

Did not do it and if I’m even if I’m even findable then I could be used as an example of what made me fail but then I was like well what if I freaking make it because I’m believing I can I’m believing it enough that I’m going at it that’s why I quit my day job because I’m putting the belief to the test so let’s say I make the million dollars like how cool would it be to be able to rewind it and see it happen so that’s what I did I started a YouTube show called millionaire case study I been posting on Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat you name it everything I could to document different things and there the entire journey along the way and showing like the process that me a regular dude has been going through and then I’ve been testing it on some things so I told you at the beginning of this that there were things like I wanted to be a speaker I wanted to start my own business I wanted to challenge myself physically.

I wanted to be a millionaire, I wanted to like do all the stuff just to fast forward on this. Since then over the last three years I’ve been blessed to tick some of those things off I’ve been blessed to tick off becoming debt-free that was a big one I had fifty three grand in debt that I paid off and documented the journey of how I did it I didn’t know how I was gonna start a business but I knew I wanted to start a business and I started documenting before I even got my first client and I’ve been doing it ever since.

I wanted to be a speaker and I documented into my journey of getting my first speaking and he’s like even getting into speaking practicing with Toastmasters I show practicing there and how I get into speaking and all the way up to doing my first keynote in front of 2,200 people and then the speaking now and then getting my paid speaking gig that was like more than I made in two months at my day job and I wanted to like not just listen to podcast like this I wanted to be interviewed on those big podcasts and then I started to be interviewed by people like John Lee Dumas and then get into things like entrepreneur magazine and it’s just insane right now as I’m talking about this stuff because it’s become my normal and it’s just so insanely cool to reflect back and revisit my 3-year younger self and be like fuck man! It’s happening, it’s freaking happening and again I could go deeper into each one of these things on the speaking thing or how I started my business and stuff like that but I think the main thing I just want to leave on this episode is what I’m doing like what I’m all about like I started challenging myself in other ways mentally like running a 50 mile ultra marathon just to see if I freaking could and I did it and so what’s insane is when I had these visions or these ideas I was just a regular dude and now since I’ve been documenting the whole thing it’s not just that said after the fact literally people can go back and rewind my favorite parts of my Facebook or Instagram but the best resource my YouTube show and see me talk about challenges and challenges and shit that I’m like trying to figure out and see it happen before it happens.

And I say that because if you’re listening to this right now here’s like the thing that I want to do more than anything what I what’s kind of been developed as my calling it was my calling then and that was my calling now at the beginning I wanted to be able to help people that were like me that were like I wish I could find a regular person and watch them become successful and fast forward even and see how they did it so I know that I can do it because I feel like there’s something that I have to share with the world.

And so what I hope with people listening to the podcast that people that have been following my journey that maybe just maybe they will look at my journey they can rewind it to where I was just a regular fucked up at my day job trying to just dream and figure it out and realize holy cow he literally is just a regular dude he’s not anything more special than me he didn’t have anything figured out he didn’t know what he was doing and he figured it out and if he can figure it out then I can and I can make a difference on the world and I can go make my ding in the universe this is proof that I can do it and that’s my hope for people listening to this and for people that I end up impacting is that where there’s a freaking will there’s a way and just to make it corny and funny my last name’s Wayman so I got to put that in there where there’s a will there’s a way man and I think I want to get vulnerable here and share some of the stuff that I or at least transparent not necessarily vulnerable but transparent on some of my goals `coz I haven’t hit all my goals yet again it’s called millionaire case study.

I’m not even a millionaire yet, last year we made I around 150 was my first time hitting six figures but I’m documenting it along the way and if you have seen me not just heard me on the podcast you know I have a beard that’s another challenge I usually don’t have a beard but why does the podcast have a beer or the thumbnail have a beard why do I have a beard all over because I can made the commitment that I was not going to shave until I make my first $1,000,000 so I’m committed to it I’m committed to testing this stuff and seeing if it works all this personal development principles that you can read in books I’m testing it I’m going first and like showing it and saying hey this is what I learned in this area and I’m gonna go try it and I’ve been documenting it and sometimes it works sometimes it doesn’t work some days are awesome some days are not so awesome some weeks are awesome and some weeks are depressive and anxious that’s what I want to capture in everything because I just want to show that the realness the humanity because maybe there’s just gonna be one person that would have made a difference for rest of humanity if they just had the courage and that the evidence that they could make a difference and just the idea that I could be that one person’s difference to make the world a better place is why I’m doing , what I’m doing.

So that’s me again I just wanted to give kind of an idea and then oh the transparent stuff some of the stuff again I’m not a millionaire yet but, I’m going at it and finances are tough some weeks I’m in some months they’re actually kind of tight right now and I’m hoping I can get it moving in the right direction but I want to document some of my intentions right now before it happens so that when people see that it happened they know that okay this is a this is a real thing you can literally make an intention or a vision and something and go after it because it’s easy to say like somebody that bought into Bitcoin oh I knew how big it was going to be like and that’s why I’m so rich not enough Bitcoin you didn’t freaking know it’s easy to say that in hindsight but like tell me before it was big and so I’m gonna tell you something’s before I’m doing it right now just so you can either follow along or maybe I had already did it and you’re listening to this in the future and you hear me saying it before it actually happened so a few things number one; I want to give a TEDx talk I have no effing idea how yet I’ve done several things I’ve submitted myself I’m not having any luck but I want to do a TEDx talk I in my day job would be there in my cubicle watching TEDx talks and I’m like man I want to do that so I want to do a TEDx talk.

What else I’ll give you a big one of course I want to be a millionaire still going after that but a big one like something that’s just so out of this world that I have zero idea or connection how it’s going to happen so when it does it’ll just be like holy it’s this I want to be on Ellen like that be I have no idea how again like even as I say it I’m like do I actually really believe that’s possible because I go through all that still I still go through the doubts and wonder if I can but I will say the belief is getting bigger. The belief is growing because of what this last three years has been like we’re at the beginning I was like can I do it and didn’t know if I could but I’ve been going at it and seeing some of the stuff actually work so I have to just believe enough that if I keep on doing it keep putting one foot in front of the other that maybe I can do it so that’s pretty much it for this episode of fan question Friday.

I’m gonna wrap it up right here again just wanted to give kind of an overview especially for those of you that are meeting me for the first time or coming to this podcast from seeing somebody shared or something like that like what I’m up to and so that’s what this podcast is just things that I’m curious about but a way to be open and transparent with the journey it’s why I have my YouTube show it’s what I’m doing like I want to show that it’s actually freaking possible and so I want to be the first story following a regular dude go from nothing to making it happen so that you can go make your mark on the world as well.

So thank you so much for listening guys, I’m Calvin Wayman your host of The Curious with Calvin Wayman podcast and I will see you on the next episode. Peace out guys! Oh by the way if you haven’t gotten your ticket yet to come see me in Tampa Florida calvinwayman.com/amplifytour go there now calvinwayman.com/amplifytour.

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